Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control
by Jeannette Dewyze, Allan Mallinger
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Author: Allan Mallinger, Jeannette DewyzeEdition: Paperback
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Original Language); English (Published)
Published: 1993-06-01
ISBN: 0449908003
Number of pages: 224
Publisher: Ballantine Books
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Summary: 5 Stars
I could have used this book any time in the 18 years since it was published, but was particularly ripe for it now, since I've been doing a lot of work with issues of perfectionism and (it turns out) demand resistance. It's well written and goes down easy, at least in my experience -- the author is so nice about those obsessive traits that we've just taken a bit too far, so that they're hurting us. We have been buying multiple copies and passing them out. This is tricky because you can't just hand something to a typical perfectionist and say "you really need this"! Luckily my husband didn't buy it for me, and he didn't give it to me to read, otherwise it would still be sitting on the shelf. (See page 88!) Instead it has become our most important book in a year unusually crammed with important books, and has generated a lot of interest and discussion among the many, many people we know who are "interested in the subject." No coincidence since people who care about doing things right tend to hang around together. Another dozen copies ought to do it, though!
Summary of Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control
For many of us, perfectionism can bring life's most desired rewards. But when the obsessive need for perfection and control gets in the way of our professional and emotional lives, the cost becomes too high. Although many of us appear cool and confident on the outside, inside we are in emotional turmoil, trying to satisfy everyone, attempting to direct the future, and feeling that we are failing.In TOO PERFECT, Dr. Allan Mallinger draws on twenty years of research and observations from his private practice to show how perfectionism can sap energy, complicate even the simplest decisions, and take the enjoyment out of life. For workaholics or neat freaks, for anyone who fears change or making mistakes, needs rigid rules, is excessively frugal or obstinate, TOO PERFECT offers revealing self-tests, fascinating case histories, and practical strategies to help us overcome obsessiveness and reclaim our right to happiness.
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