The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love
by Paul Dobransky
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Author: Paul DobranskyEdition: Hardcover
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Original Language); English (Published)
Published: 2007-05-29
ISBN: 0452288185
Number of pages: 276
Publisher: Plume
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Summary: 5 Stars
Dr Paul describes the 9 step process that women can use to find the man of their dreams. Previously, Dr Paul has outlined the same process for men, which is a little different. I have used his other products, so its all familiar.
The 9 steps are more than enough to justify buying this book. It explains the Triune brain theory, our reptilian, mammalian, and higher brain function, which are responsible for attraction, bonding, and commitment. Relationships falter between there is lack of communication between partners on all three levels simultaneously, and this is how the 9 step process comes into play. If the entire 9 steps are not followed in sequence or steps are overlooked years can be wasted, and you can be left wondering where the relationship went wrong. For example, one important step in the attraction phase is make him compete to win you. As a man I understand why this is important. As a woman you may wonder, until you read this book.
There is however so much other gold in this book. As an experienced psychiatrist, with substantial case experience, he has developed models of how to deal with various issues both personally and in relationships. In particular, I liked his definition of self esteem, and his maps to deal with this, anger, sadness, anxiety and depression.
This book is far more complete than the title would suggest, offering many proven processes to fine tune your relationship. Perhaps the most important concept of all is the "Cool Eye" which as human beings we all have, but very few of us use it consciously as a tool to improve our lives. Quite simply though, you cannot evolve without it.
How do you know if a man will commit? Your clock could be ticking loudly, and your eggs yearning to fertilise, yet you have no clue when and if he will commit. The answer is testing, and he has recommendations for you to use in this book.
How do you if you are compatible? You can test your archetype for free at his website [...], and determine if you are a queen/king, warrior, magician, lover. Your romantic match would be the opposite archetype. This is based on Jungian theory. For Sex and the City fans, the four female characters represent the female archetypes. Mr Big is a warrior.
Dr P also teaches you how to develop a strong personal boundary. This will prevent you from getting into abusive or codependent relationships.
Men will find this useful too. You will understand why you did not commit to someone in the past, and how to be stand up high character guy who will commit when you do meet the right woman.
If you care to follow this book, you can save years of wasted time with the wrong guy, stop being strung along, screen for the right characteristics, and prevent cheating, and learn how to get a guy to commit. Pretty good, eh? I trust you find this helpful.
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A scientifically proven 9-step program for understanding the dating brain and finding the love of your life
Psychiatrist Paul Dobransky presents a patented, clinically proven, easy-to-follow nine-step program that can lead to lasting love.
Successful romantic relationships have three phases:
1. Attraction
2. Bonding in friendship
3. Commitment
Dr. Dobransky demonstrates how each of these stages is dealt with by a particular part of the brain. By appealing to each of these three ?brains? in order, we can build a relationship that will last for a lifetime. Drawing on real-life case studies and accessible scientific theory, Dr. Dobransky explains how and why we make the romantic choices we make and shows how we can identify the right person for us and enjoy true love that stands the test of time.
A scientifically proven 9-step program for understanding the dating brain and finding the love of your life
Psychiatrist Paul Dobransky presents a patented, clinically proven, easy-to-follow nine-step program that can lead to lasting love.
Successful romantic relationships have three phases:
1. Attraction
2. Bonding in friendship
3. Commitment
Dr. Dobransky demonstrates how each of these stages is dealt with by a particular part of the brain. By appealing to each of these three ?brains? in order, we can build a relationship that will last for a lifetime. Drawing on real-life case studies and accessible scientific theory, Dr. Dobransky explains how and why we make the romantic choices we make and shows how we can identify the right person for us and enjoy true love that stands the test of time.
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