Sm 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
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Book Reviews of Sm 101: A Realistic Introduction
Book Review: Great place to start
Summary: 5 Stars
Great intro to what BDSM means and is all about. My interests are mainly in bondage and "giving erotic pain," and while I don't see myself ever having my own dungeon (too complicated with kids and my often >60 hr workweek but I love the idea!) and I'm too much of a monogamist to ever play with anyone other than my wife, this book is excellent for building a base of knowledge that someone can use to enter and enjoy BDSM in whatever level of involvement he or she might be interested. Dispels much of the myth and prejudice with which BDSM is viewed (good even for an "open-minded" person such as myself) - the dark, dangerous, abusive and freaky practice of perverts. It's funny to think of how many people are into BDSM and don't know it (ever given your sig other a little spanking, fantasized about handcuffs, or done a little roleplaying?). Not a bad place to start as far as bondage interests are concerned; once I'm done with this review, I'm going to buy the bondage books by Jay Wiseman and Midori. And I definitely liked the chapter on giving erotic pain. He takes a lot of time explaining how to be caring and considerate (as both a "top" and a "bottom"), and how to always play it safe. Much appreciated book, and a quick read despite so much useful quality information. If you're already very involved with BDSM, this book would probably be rather elementary, but then again, you most likely read this book a long time ago. Even if your interests are peripheral at best, this book will open your mind and if nothing else, feed your curiosity and educate you about a world that many of us didn't know existed.Book Review: An excellent book
Summary: 5 Stars
I would highly recommend this book to any person considering exploring BDSM. The author clearly explains many of those things newcomers wonder about, and several things we would not think about but really need to know or would be too embarassed to ask. He offers clear, concise, often amusing, explainations of how to get started and how to find others who share your interests. He constantly emphasizes safety, (something too often ignored in the thrill of discovery) while maintaining an encouraging attitude. All in all an excellent book for anyone just starting out or maybe just curious what all the fuss is about. Even experienced players would probably benefit from reading this book. I would also recommend this book for someone who is vanilla, but whose partner and/or loved one(s), is interested in or involved in BDSM. To the growing list of people who might benefit from this book, let me add anyone involved in law enforcement, social services, or medicine, all careers which are likely to come into contact with participants. This book can answer many of your questions and help to remove some of the mystery and stigma of this often misunderstood part of human nature.
The only part of the book I found that perhaps needs updating is the recommendation for the use of products with nonoxynol-9. The book was printed before the results of a study on N-9 came out last year which recommended no longer using it due to some unforseen problems. Anyone with questions on that, look it up on the net.
Book Review: 101...I think so and now I know.
Summary: 5 Stars
For years I had thought that my "kinky" thoughts/feelings were wrong. I harbored this incredible guilt and for many years, thought that I was doomed to hell for all of eternity for having these thoughts.
What's that have to do with Jay Wiseman's book? Well I'll tell you - it gave me a practical...down to earth perspective on BDSM. There are a myriad of - at times - confusing blogs, forums, websites, i.e. informative platforms out there that never really helped me wrap my head around it all. 101 helped bridge the gap between the fantasies and the reality; which then began opening a plethora of "doors" and helped solidify my interests. "You mean I can ACTUALLY do this?" I thought numerous times while reading 101. "Wow!" The "why" and "how" questions were given a simple, easily understandable pragmatism; the applications, the tools, the process and the techniques that one might incorporate into "play," thus bringing the fantasy from my head...into the bedroom, so to speak.
I highly recommend 101 to the hardcore "kinkster" and conservative "vanilla" types alike - it's one read that just helps dispel the often gregarious (even blasphemous) attempts at tarnishing the world of BDSM with conjecture, speculation and innuendo while giving you the practical tools/knowledge one needs to safely "play" in our dreams.
Book Review: From nowhere to somewhere
Summary: 5 Stars
I bought this book because my partner and I have both expressed interest in the SM world. Seeing as she is more experienced than me I thought I could brush up on my skills and learn some new tricks. The more I read this book the more I realize that my "experienced" gf is actually a novice just like me. This book has awakened me to a whole new side of SM and for that I'm thankful. When I started to become interested in SM I often imagined that there was only one way to do it but that's a lie. This book has taught me to explore SM in my own way and I'm much happier that I can be active in my own way but also safe. Wiseman speaks of safety a lot in this book and I'm thankful because I would have over looked many of those things in my "play sessions".
I also like the fact that this book is gender/sexuality neutral. Being one of mother nature's rarest creatures, a BDSM lesbian who's just reached the legal age to vote, I'm very pleased that Wiseman tried to appeal to all communities.
I'm more at peace with my-self because of this book.This book is for anyone who's even slightly interested in SM. It will open you to a new way of thinking about sexuality and kink. So, buy the book, learn a little and in the process get kinked!
Book Review: Excellent reference book
Summary: 5 Stars
This is a really good reference book on most aspects usually associated with BDSM - perfect for beginners (who may not always be aware of how risky certain practises are and how - relatively speaking - safe other more conventionally "hard core" things may be). The author gives an excellent run-down on his version on the ethos of BDSM, and with so much experience of his own he seems well placed to do so. He also gives alot of practical advice about how to practise BDSM safely (emotionally and physically). I was especially impressed by his chapter on "basic basics" and "flagellation". This book is not perfect but it is still so good that I am giving it 5 stars. The things I did not like so much about the book were that (a) it hardly even mentions fisting, (b) the author is very scene based - this is not a big problem but it does mean that I filtered (by skim reading or skipping) probably about 1/8th to 1/4 of the text out (eg, how to find a partner/ local SM organisation/practise safe sex/etc). It has to be said that the fact that the author is so scene based is probably why the book is so good - Wiseman obviously draws from alot of personal and well sourced second hand information from friends in the BDSM scene.