Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise

Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise
by Jane Middelton-Moz

Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise
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Author: Jane Middelton-Moz
Edition: Paperback
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Original Language); English (Published)
Published: 1990-09-01
ISBN: 1558740724
Number of pages: 155
Publisher: HCI

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Book Review: I found this book very helpful
Summary: 5 Stars

I remember having this book recommended to me years ago at the now closed "Journey's Bookstore" in Beaverton, Oregon. The woman who recommended it had actually heard the tape edition of this book first and was placing an order for the book version. She told me that it made her "cry for the child within her." I thought that any book that had such a powerful affect as this, must be a book I should read.

I ordered the tape and book edition. I listened to the tape version first (which was of the author talking to an audience about the content of this book), and then I read the book. The two together were quite powerful. The most interesting thing about this book was that it differentiates between "guilt" and "shame." The author says that often we use the two interchangeably. But the author says that they are actually two different things. The author says that guilt is "the feeling that what you have DONE is wrong," and that shame is "the feeling that what you ARE is wrong."

Summary of Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise

"It is my feeling that debilitating shame and guilt are at the root of all dysfunctions in families," says Jane Middelton-Moz.


A few common characteristics of adults shamed in childhood:

  • You may suffer extreme shyness, embarrassment and feelings of being inferior to others. You don't believe you make mistakes, you believe you are a mistake.
  • You feel controlled from the outside and from within. You feel that normal spontaneous expression is blocked.
  • You may suffer from debilitating guilt; you apologize constantly.
  • You have little sense of emotional boundaries; you feel constantly violated by others; you frequently build false boundaries.

    If you see yourself in any of these characteristics, you can learn how shame keeps you from being the person you were born to be and how to change that. Shame And Guilt describes how debilitating shame is created and fostered in childhood and how it manifests itself in adulthood and in intimate relationships. Through the use of myths and fairytales to portray different shaming environments, Dr. Middelton-Moz allows you to reach the shamed child within you and to add clarity to what could be difficult concepts.

    Read Shame and Guilt - you're worth it.


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