Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside Out
by Phil McGraw

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Book Reviews of Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside Out

Book Review: Self Matters by Dr. McGraw
Summary: 5 Stars

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."

This statement attests to the importance of knowing the inner
self and having the all-important internal dialogue frequently.
A chapter on "defining moments" forces us to examine the bottom
line effects of these events on our own concept of "the self".

A part of the book reviews alternatives in terms of choices
presented, choices made, alternatives given up, the concept
of self before and after making the choice, the long term
residual effect of the choice, the distortion of the choice
(if any) on your self image and your reaction to the critical
choice.

The book forces us to take an internal inventory
of many critical factors including appearance, work,
outlook, competence, skills, abilities and worth. The five-step
action plan provides a superstructure so that we can assess our abilities, evaluate
learning history/experience, examine external factors,
internal dialogue and the resolution of the authentic self.
Finally, the author deals with putting a plan of action to work
and dealing with routine problem areas/challenges in executing
the plan. Too often, we tend to
avoid taking decisive action because of "analysis paralysis".
i.e. We spend so much time analyzing a choice that the opportunity to act constructively is gone before a definitive
decision to act has been reached. Resultingly, many good opportunities are lost due to inaction or untimely action.
Analysis paralysis is a natural instinct arising from fear of the unknown or risk-taking. There can be no meaningful progress
in a forward direction without taking calculated risks.

Most people do not have the level of organization and enforced
discipline outlined by the author. A beauty of this work is that the
author provides readers with an important framework to analyze
the inner self including goals, motivations, reactions,
perceptions of the self and a whole host of factors which
individuals are rarely conscious of in the conduct of everyday
life. The work is a solid investment in the behavioral side
of personal planning. Many of us spend time planning for the
financial dimensions of life with little or no focus on the
behavioral dimensions that motivate us to act as we do.

The work is a good investment in the area of personal growth,
goal achievement and the dynamics of motivating factors which
govern a multiplicity of behaviors and critical incidences.

Summary of Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside Out

What if there is a You that has never seen the light of day, has never got to say, "Hey, what about me?"

What if there is a You that you have never even met and certainly never permitted to just be, without fear of judgment or condemnation?

What if you live your life on the sidelines in constant fear of failing to please those who forever seem to stand in judgment of you and your life?

What if you discovered that you had settled for what life has served up instead of what you really wanted and needed?

What if you really think and feel things you have never allowed to come out, and certainly never acted on?

What if your marriage is not at all what you really emotionally want and need, but you silently stay the course anyway, selling out your hope to be happy?

What if you are allowing days to turn into weeks and weeks to turn into months and months to turn into years, all adding up to a lifetime of being what some nameless, faceless world has assigned you to be?

If any of these "What ifs" are true in your life, then we need to talk, and through these pages, we will. First, I have some bad news, and I have some good news. The bad news is you are making the choices that have put you in this life circumstance; the good news is you are making the choices that have put you in this life circumstance. Now is the time to make the biggest choice of your life. Through Self Matters, I will help you do just that.

-- Phil McGraw

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