Freeing Our Families From Perfectionism
by Thomas S. Greenspon
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Author: Thomas S. GreensponEdition: Paperback
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Original Language); English (Published)
Published: 2001-10-15
ISBN: 1575421038
Number of pages: 128
Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing
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Book Review: Highly Recommend!
Summary: 5 Stars
This book defines the true meaning of perfectionism -- which is not what most people think it is. Before reading his book, I thought I had a pretty good understanding of the traits of a perfectionist, but now I realize I was off the mark. Greenspon educated and enlightened me in an easy-to-read, accessible way that opened my eyes to my own perfectionism, and helped me recognize ways to keep it from taking over my life.It is clear from the beginning that Greenspon is writing from personal experience, as well as from his many years of counseling experience. His suggestions and reminders lead the readers to apply the information he provides in their own lives. He offers checklists, questions, and inventories to determine your own "hot spots" or those of your family members. There is a strong focus on working within the family to help one another and provide support. He offers different scenarios for discussion, varying according to age of children, and also offers resources for more information on most of the topics covered in the book.
Greenspon makes the important distinction that perfectionism is not the same thing as striving for high quality in all that you do. He also explains how perfectionists are more motivated by fear of failure than by desire for success. This is where I had an "a-ha!" moment, and the proverbial light-bulb went on in my head. As I read more, I was able to look at my own tendencies and those of the members of my family, and start to recognize the motivation or cause of our behaviors.
I recommend this book to anyone who thinks they know what perfectionism is, to anyone who wonders if they, or a member of their family, suffer from perfectionism, and to anyone who is just plain curious about why people do the things they do. It is a fairly short book which provides clear information without offering confusing technical definitions or jargon. It is interesting, well-written, and informative. I offer my thanks to Dr. Greenspon for a book which has helped me to better understand myself and others.
Summary of Freeing Our Families From Perfectionism
Perfectionism is not about doing our best. It?s not about the struggle for excellence, or the healthy striving for high goals.
Perfectionism is about believing that if we can just do something perfectly, other people will love and accept us?and if we can?t, we?ll never be good enough.
Perfectionism is a burden that takes a heavy toll. Personal relationships are strained. Intimacy is elusive. Work seems overwhelming. Creativity slows to a trickle. Physical exhaustion is common. Perfectionism is painful and debilitating?a no-win situation.
As parents, we influence our children?s emotional development. The bad news is, our own attitudes about love, acceptance, success, and failure can create an environment that promotes perfectionism.
The good news is, we can make positive changes that will enrich our children?s lives?and our own.
In this groundbreaking book, Tom Greenspon explains perfectionism, where it comes from (including influences outside the family), and what to do about it. He describes a healing process for transforming perfectionism into healthy living practices and self-acceptance.
If you think your child may be a perfectionist?if you?ve ever wondered if you?re a perfectionist?this book is for you.
Perfectionism is about believing that if we can just do something perfectly, other people will love and accept us?and if we can?t, we?ll never be good enough.
Perfectionism is a burden that takes a heavy toll. Personal relationships are strained. Intimacy is elusive. Work seems overwhelming. Creativity slows to a trickle. Physical exhaustion is common. Perfectionism is painful and debilitating?a no-win situation.
As parents, we influence our children?s emotional development. The bad news is, our own attitudes about love, acceptance, success, and failure can create an environment that promotes perfectionism.
The good news is, we can make positive changes that will enrich our children?s lives?and our own.
In this groundbreaking book, Tom Greenspon explains perfectionism, where it comes from (including influences outside the family), and what to do about it. He describes a healing process for transforming perfectionism into healthy living practices and self-acceptance.
If you think your child may be a perfectionist?if you?ve ever wondered if you?re a perfectionist?this book is for you.
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