For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
by Shaunti Feldhahn, Jeff Feldhahn
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Author: Jeff Feldhahn, Shaunti FeldhahnBrand: Random House
Edition: Hardcover
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Original Language); English (Published)
Published: 2006-04-03
ISBN: 1590525728
Number of pages: 192
Publisher: Multnomah Books
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- ISBN13: 9781590525722
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Book Reviews of For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
Book Review: great info, should be read together with companion book
Summary: 5 Stars
THIS REVIEW PERTAINS TO THE 2-VOLUME SET!
I like this set so much I am buying a copy for each of my brothers, so they can (hopefully) skip some of the mistakes I made in my first marriage. The best gift I can give each family member is a happy primary relationship, and I think this is the best means by which I can give it to them.
For either gender, this set seems to be the closest thing imaginable to an "owner's manual" to the opposite gender. I wish I'd had this available years ago, to avoid some of those situations when walking on eggshells seemed inevitable. I've always believed in respecting the differences between people, but it's exponentially easier when you know precisely what the differences are!
Without trivializing any one trait, this married couple co-authors a simply & factually written guide to understanding the psyche of your significant other. I can't imagine how much good they have done for couples who read these volumes. I bet most readers get only a few pages in before exclaiming "WOW," because it's rare that the other gender will open up so completely and so fearlessly to give us a clear glimpse inside their psychological map. After I received my copy, I read both volumes, discussed them with my boyfriend, then lent them to his daughter. I hope to share this treasure with many more people!
The volume about men began accidentally, when the author discovered (while researching a novel) that her understanding of the male psyche was much less deep than she thought, and began to see her research as more applicable to a self-help book than a fictional story. Promising anonymity encouraged several male acquaintances to level with her, and she discovered a new understanding of "normal" for a man's inner world. Surmising that very few of us women would attempt such research, and that very few men would be willing to lay themselves bare to a loved one, she collected hundreds of answers about the issues that are core to the male psyche. Then she started to give out this info in her couples' workshops, and got even more insight. Then her husband went with her to several such workshops to gather intel, and wrote the companion volume for men, to explain the things that confounded men about their female significant others. Both books are strong enough to stand on their own, but are more useful to established couples in tandem, so each person can explain or answer questions about their own gender, then ask some questions of their partner, all based on the insights presented here.
The volume "For Men Only" gives a pretty accurate description of typical womens' wiring, touching on the subjects of differing sex drives, our perceived obsession with beauty, the ability to mentally multi-task (and inability to stop multi-tasking) emotional "flashbacks" to episodes/memories that were seemingly resolved, and a few other female idiosyncrasies. Although I consider myself an atypical woman in many ways (and others have strongly agreed with this assessment), much of this information is still true, to a degree. There's even a short, one-page "abstract" of the topics, for men who only have 5 minutes to peek inside the book before deciding whether to continue.
I found the "For Women Only" insights to be quite useful too, and discerning about how to explain a man's mental terrain so that a woman can best comprehend it. Although none of the topics were surprising, I was startled by the superficiality of my previous understanding. This volume covers mens' drive to perceive themselves as providers, the centrality of the sex drive, the need for respect (especially in public) from near & dear (particularly spouses), and ability to compartmentalize mental issues/topics, and a few other male idiosyncrasies.
For all of us in a committed, healthy, heterosexual relationship, who would like to avoid stepping on an emotional landmine, this is worth the price and the time it'll take you to read it the first time. I bet my next paycheck that you will then decide it's worth reading at least one more time, and lending out to someone else who wants to have a healthier relationship with their significant other. Just remember that individuals will vary within the range of "generally true information" presented herein.
Summary of For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
Finally?You Can Understand Her!Women: complicated and impossible to understand? Do you love and want to please the woman in your life, but just can?t seem to figure her out? That was before For Men Only. Now at your fingertips is the tool that will unlock the secret to her mysterious ways. Through hundreds of interviews and the results of a scientific national survey of women, this book demonstrates that women are actually not random and that they really can be systematized and ?mapped.? In fact, much to men?s delight, this book shows that women are actually quite easy to understand and please?as long as you know what it is they need. This simple map will guide you to loving your wife or girlfriend in the way she needs to be loved.
The bestselling author of For Women Only teams with her husband to offer men the key to unlocking the mysterious ways of women. Through Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn ?s national scientific survey and hundreds of interviews, For Men Only reveals what you can do today to improve your relationship. And believe it or not, as Jeff assures men, ?It?s not splitting the atom.?
And for every guy who rarely reads a manual:
Quick-Start Guide Included!
?When we featured Shaunti?s book For Women Only on FamilyLife Today, the phone rang off the hook! When Shaunti and Jeff come back on our broadcast, I?m buying some more phones. This is fresh and relevant?good stuff for every marriage. Read it!?
Dennis Rainey
President, FamilyLife
Story Behind the Book
?As I was writing For Women Only to help women understand the inner lives of men, over and over I heard that men wished there was a way to understand their wives, but they felt it was probably impossible. I heard from them, ?You are writing this little slim volume about men, but if it was about understanding women, it would have to be the size of an encyclopedia! Women are random and complicated!? These men were surprised and encouraged when I assured them that women are neither random nor complicated, and we can be understood. Men just want to love their wives well, and For Men Only will help them do that.?
?Shaunti Feldhahn
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